Choosing An Officiant

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The Options

Religious ceremony: conducted by an officiant such as a pastor, priest, rabbi or other spiritual leader from your place of worship.

Spiritual ceremony: conducted by an officiant that incorporates general spiritual themes into your wedding if you do not necessarily wish to reference a specific religion or have a traditional religious ceremony.

Civil ceremony: conducted by a Justice of the Peace, marriage commissioner, or other officiant of your choice and is usually without any religious content.

Initial Consultation

What to Bring/Know:


  • Your wedding date
  • Ideas based on things you have seen
  • What you like / don’t like
  • Whether you want to write your own vows


What to Ask:

How long have you been officiating?
Verify that they have been in the business for awhile, have performed a number of other weddings and have a list of references for you to check.

Are you able to accommodate different and/or unique traditions or requests?
Make sure you will be able to incorporate your cultural traditions and that there is a way to include children or parents in the ceremony as you desire.

Can we choose our own readings?
Find out if you are able to personalize the homily and the readings or if the officiant prefers to use a basic ceremony plan.

Can we write our own vows?
If wanting to do this, look for an officiant with experience in coaching couples that write their own vows.

Do you charge extra to attend the rehearsal or to travel?
Make sure you know everything that is included and whether there are extra fees for extra services.

Cost Breakdown

Time: Many hours go into getting to know the couple, crafting a personalized ceremony, communicating with the bride and groom, and revising drafts.

Date: Officiants may charge less depending on the time of year or the day of the week.

dded Services: Sometimes there are extra fees for attending the rehearsal or for traveling certain distances.